Couples Sleeping in Separate Rooms: Better for a Relationship?
It is a fact that people spend less time together, because they spend more time at work, no mater if we are referring at a relationship or actually a marriage. This is also what an article that recently appeared in The New York Times is trying to show, but by revealing what has become more of a trend in the passed years: couples sleep in separate rooms.
It seems that one in four American couples opted for separate bedrooms, at least this is what a study initiated by National Association of Home Builders has discovered. And the numbers are about to grow because the same study showed that in 2015 this sleeping in different bedrooms will be a reality for more than 60 percent of all couples. Well, marriages will definitely be having a new image from this point of view.
Why do people opt for such a lifestyle? Is it a good or a bad thing? Many individuals say that they best sleep or relax when they are alone, and after a tired day of work, they just need some time for themselves. But, can that hurt a relationship?
In the attempt to give an answer to this question, Shine asked a psychotherapist that is also kind of famous. Tina Tessina is the author of the book “Money, Sex, and Kids: Stops Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.” Well, the therapist considers that sleeping in different bedrooms can have some negative effects on a relationship because it means a disconnection in the couple. “It just makes it easier to avoid each other, when what’s really needed is connection and contact. There are solutions to snoring and restlessness — a memory foam mattress will stop restlessness from being felt by a partner and snoring can be helped in a number of ways,” Tina Tessina said.
Well, one of the explication why people decide to sleep in different room when involved in a relationship is the one that they can not sleep well with their partners, so this whole situation is needed in order to be able to rest. But, a study published in the journal Sleep and Biological Rhythms showed the exact opposite, at least when we are referring to man.
When a woman is in a relationship, she sleeps less soundly, at least this is what the study has found. But, a man, on the other hand sleeps so much better with a women next to him. So, sleeping with a partner is not that bad, neither for the woman or the man.
Studies also indicate that when a couple sleeps less time near each other, in the relationship there is less sex involved. And private time is kind of crucial in a couple’s life. But, besides sex, which is definitely an important part of a relationship, conversation is probably the vital element. People also tend to make conversation when they are near each other and of course before going to bed. If you and your partner sleep in different room you definitely can not communicate. For many couples this is actually the one time when they can talk without being interrupted. During the day people are at work and so, they are able to talk only at the phone, and at night, they have home duties, kids or parents coming over, so there is not much time to communicate or to spend together. So, before going to bed is the only time when they can reconnect.
So, specialists say that it is better for a couple to share the same room and the same bed. But still more and more couples take the other way and opt to have different bedrooms. Would you like to sleep in a different room, away from your life partner? You will surly have your privacy, but doesn’t it damage your relationship?11