Do Not Let Chronic Pain Affect Your Sex Life
Some of the people may find it difficult to accept the fact that they are dealing with a problem and they as well not accept this thing. Anyhow, it is important to know and to accept it as being a part of your life. Just by making this, will you be able to fight it. It does not affect just you as it can affect your couple life. The chronic pain can be of two types – the “nocicceptive” type and the “neuropathic” type. The nociceptive one can at its turn be divided in superficial somatic and deep pain. The first one is activated by nociceptors in the skin or in the superficial tissue; while the deep somatic pain is initiated by stimulation of the niociceptors in ligaments, tendons, bones, blood vessels, fasciae and muscles.
The neuropathic pain is at its turn divided into peripheral and central pain. The first one is often described as burning, stabbing, and pins and needles feeling.
Neither of the two is worth having and preferred, but if you feel that you may be finding yourself in any of these situations, you must take some proper measures to improve your living. Without even noticing at first, chronic pain can affect your sexual life on more than just one level. It is just a pain in the head that you may be heaving that will just inhibit your way through sex. According to a survey that was made by the National Headache Foundation, in 2007, 69% of the total number of people that participated, responded that at some time, the headache made them avoid having sex.
Anyhow, whether you are a chronic pain patient, the last thing that you need is more discomfort and “black” thoughts. Therefore, a part of the thing that you just cannot move on with the sexual issue, you realize deep down inside your head that “That lack of intimacy can have detrimental effects on relationships.”
Rather than having a headache, a person may have pain in other parts of the body, which can actually make him or her incapable of having such relationships. Therefore, it will just make you physically suffer pain. Apart from this the self – esteem of the person in cause will decrease enormously.
Some of the patients have explained, that keeping a proper sex like and as well fighting with the chronic pain disorder, orgasms may sometimes cause her migraines: that “doesn’t give me a whole lot of incentive,” she says.
It is a wrong thing to do, to choose not to speak with the person next to you and explain him or her, what you are confronting yourself with. By accepting your situation it does not necessarily mean that you will remain like this for the rest of your life. First of all choose to have a talk with your doctor so that you will be certain on what you are confronting yourself with, and just then have a heart to heart talk with the other half of your couple.
Then maintaining your doctor’s visit constant you will learn how to deal with both the chronic pain that you suffer from and with the sexual intimacy that no person should be deprived of. By this patient doctor connection, they can co – work together in order to devise a pain management protocol by alleviating pain during sexual intercourse.
If you are in that phase when you do not even hold hands so that this will not make the other desire for more, it would be useful if you sought the advice of a therapist or couples counselor. He will be the most suitable to help you find the proper relaxation both mentally and physically. A therapist will as well notice whether the person confronting with the situation has lost his self- esteem and try to focus on regaining this.
Theoretically, as long as you feel mentally and emotionally happy and get to a level of happiness that will trigger something inside you, the pain will slowly fade away. “If you can give someone an orgasm, they will have a flood of endorphins and their overall pain numbers will go down.”, according to Dr. Gevirtz.
Apart from the doctors – patients relationship, you can try an continue helping yourself though home treatment. This is done by improving your communication with the partner. This consists in discovering which are the touches that make that person feel the pleasure, and which are those that disturb and hurt him. Anyhow, such talk must be done on a neutral ground, most certainly not in bed.
By improving and talking more with your partner you will be able to arrive at a common conclusion and he may actually be able to understand and to accept the situation. At the end of the day, the thing is to be together and help each other through the bad and the good. Focus on making the best sex moments, in those moments that you feel rather better than usually.
